Many of you may find yourselves being the sole or primary caregiver for your elderly parents. Know that this is a huge transition for the family and that because you are the primary sibling involved, it could be an uncomfortable position if you do not have sibling support.

Before convening a family meeting which will be an intense, difficult discussion think through these things to help the meeting be as productive as possible.

If you are feeling frustration, disappointment or anger at them: What do you want from your siblings?
Is it physical, emotional, financial or another kind of support? Be clear about what ways you need them to help you.
Define a goal for all of you to have a frank, honest conversation about caregiving as your parents age. Avoid guilting your brothers/sisters as each may have complex reasons they may be unaware of for why they are not supporting you.
As a last resort if the conversation/discussion devolves into an impasse or hurt feelings, look to outside help for navigating the care needs of your parents.

There are senior care providers, case managers, family counselors, trusted friends available to help the family with this emotionally-laden topic. All of you know that your parents will continue to need more, not less, caregiving as they age so the family being in sync is critical.

Written by: Gayle Uchida, Community Relations

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